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Originally posted by CaptFritzSounds like the father needs a better lawyer.
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I agree with you, but again, if it is that obvious, why would father even need a lawyer for the courts to see this?
How this all started. Father had affairs with women in the past. Mother made him go through counseling as one of the requirements for reconciliation. During counseling father divulged he was raped as a child and that he had been having persistent nightmares. Therapy helped. After 6 months they reconciled and renewed vowels. Mother had a difficult time surrendering the past, which was expected. Despite that they tried to have more children and that did not work. After a year mother’s attitude became hostile and physically assaultive to father. Father then became less tolerant of her adjustment. Mother then left with child while father was out of town. She left on an assumption that father was having affairs again despite the contrary. Father appealed to mother to work it out. Mother soon filed. She filed on grounds of adultery and asked for sole custody stating that she feared father would rape their son since he was raped as a kid. Judge bought it even though father ever was a threat to rape any child especially his own son. Judge ordered father to undergo a sexual perpetrator evaluation despite father being raped as a child. Dad passed with flying colors even though it resurrected bad trauma and was humiliating. The mother’s allegations were proven false. Took a year for father to get visitation unserpervised by mother reestablished. During the time apart mother put child through 4 different schools. Finally, she settled back in SC. Mother was soon found to have been involved in a single car wreck where alcohol was involved. She avoided DUI or even an open container. Eight months later mother was reported to highway patrol for a hit and run. During the time of the hit and run son was in car with mother. Father eventually pled with guardian to have child removed from her custody for fear of mother drinking and driving.
To sum it up mother admitted to guardian she had been drinking and driving. Guardian requested mother attend an alcohol treatment program and get herself in shape but recommend leaving child w
So now the truth comes out. Father is/was a cheater. Father has been raped. I’m no judge but that would give me reasonable doubt as to how he would be able to raise a child in a stable manner and the fact that you kept saying that there was nothing wrong with dad proves you were just covering it up to hear an answer that you wanted to hear vs the truth. Sometimes it’s just not that easy. Granted the mother doesn’t sound like she’s a stellar parent either. Judge/guardian is probably looking at this case that child is better with mother at this time. Had she been convicted of DUI with child in car, father would have said child. Until that happens, father is wasting his breath, time and money and if the court ever decides father has potential to rape child, father can kiss his chances right out the window. Child would wind up in foster care before father was awarded custody. (I’m no lawyer, this is not legal advice)
So anyone that has been raped is a threat to their children? I fail to understand that logic and in fact that sounds like discrimination. If that were the case shouldnt every woman or man that was raped undergo a perpetrator evaluation before they can have children or reassume their children after such an act?
It appears you may be looking at this as though father’s cheating had something to do with him being a lesser parent. Cheating is cheating no doubt but parenting is another story. There had been no threat to the child by either parent until mother started drinking again. That is proven.
So as you say “the truth finally comes out” you felt inclined to believe the father warranted custody prior to hearing that he was raped as a child. Now because you learn he was raped you are willing to side with the drinking alcoholic mother. Hmmm. Father is no proven threat yet mother is.
This is currently the state of family court in SC. If someone wants a divorce fine. If you want to throw stones that’s another story. To allege a father of significant age would rape his child without any prior behaviors in the past to support such is a mean and desperate means of trying to ridicule a person. Why should the court take up that fight?
No hiding anything here Reel to elicit any desired response. The truth is the truth. Judgment has been acted on. I personally feel that women who use the courts for revenge deserve to have their case thrown back on them. To succomb to using a childhood tragedy to exact revenge especially when children are involved is a deplorable act. How?would you feel if you were in fathers situation? Right. No disrespect Reel but shoe on other foot is a tough pill to swallow at times.
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Turq…ive lost power. Ill give you a good response when I can do it on a pc.